Curious about erotic massage techniques?
Did you know there are 206 bones in the human body? There are also 650 muscles, 12 systems, and 78 organs in the human body. With all of those pieces, it’s easy to go wrong when you do bodywork.
It’s also easy to get it right. How? By following a few simple principles and avoiding a couple of amateur mistakes.
After all, nothing ruins the mood faster than bright lights or the prematurely touching erogenous zones. If you want to discover the secrets to a mind-altering, erotic massage, and you’re ready for your sex life to change forever, read on.
Setting the Mood
Women are mercurial creatures. Unlike men, they require a specific combination of safety and relaxation to get in the mood. To set this environment, you need a few things.
The first is comfortable lighting. Candles work best. Find her favorite scent, and by a half dozen beeswax candles for the occasion.
Set them around the room strategically. Set a few of them at locations easy to reach during the massage. That way you’ll have a spot to drop your bottle of massage lotion during your session.
If you’re wondering what to use to make the best massage oil for her, Dr. Axe recommends these scents to increase relaxation:
- Lavender (Lavandula Angustifolia)
- Rose (Rosa Damascena)
- Vetiver (Vetiveria Zizanioides)
- Ylang Ylang (Cananga Odorata)
- Bergamot (Citrus Bergamia)
- Chamomile (Chamaemelum Nobile)
- Frankincense (Boswellia Carteri)
You also need mood music. Pick slow, meditative music without words. This type of music places women in a hypnogogic state, somewhere between wakefulness and the dream world. The women relax their minds, and their bodies follow.
It may seem counter-intuitive. Isn’t that the opposite effect we want of that special someone on the table? Yes, yes it is.
But…
The easiest way for women to reach an aroused state is by starting from a completely relaxed state. So, help her achieve a tranquil mindset before you start foreplay. Then her body will respond naturally.
Don’t forget about the temperature. If she’s naked and freezing, you’ll ruin the purpose of the massage. Relax her with a warm fire or crank up the central heating.
Warming Elements
As you set up your space, consider purchasing a set of hot stones, stone bath, and oil warmer. Nothing says relaxation like a hot-stone massage. Be sure to practice with the stones on yourself or a willing friend before you work on your lovely lady.
The process comes with its own set of challenges.
Set up your hot stones, stone bath, and oil warmer within easy reach. Don’t forget a pitcher of cold water to cool the stone bath should it get too hot.
If you live in a chilly climate, you may also consider purchasing a table warmer or flannel sheets. The table warmers are made for massage tables. Which, by the way, is the best way to give and receive a massage.
Flannel sheets aren’t necessary. You can just as well use silkier sheets or towels. Just make sure you cover the massage table, or whatever you use, with something soft and absorbent.
Start with These Erotic Massage Techniques
After you set the space, ask your female companion to disrobe. If you think she may be shy, leave the room. After she removes her clothing and climbs on the table, she can cover herself loosely with a towel or a flat sheet.
In the meantime, wash your hands and arms thoroughly. Also, take this time to use the restroom and brush your teeth. There’s nothing worse than a scalp massage given by someone with stink breath.
When you see your female companion again, ask if there’s anything you can do to make her more comfortable. Then get a chair or a stool and plop it down at the head of the massage table.
Ask your lady to lay in a prone position (face down). Next, hold your hands in the same position you would if you were telling a car to slow down. Your fingers and palms should be gently open.
Place one hand on each side of her upper spine. Now lean your weight onto your hands. But don’t use your arm muscles to push. Just use your body weight to lean in.
Then lean back out again. Move a hand’s length down her back and practice the same leaning method over again. Continue this until you work all the way down to her feet.
Her Back Side
Next, move the sheet or towel down to the upper portion of your companion’s buttocks. You’re welcome to move it down further or remove it entirely if your partner is comfortable with it.
Coat your hands in the lotion or oil you’ve been warming. Then, standing by her head, perform effleurage (long, sweeping strokes) on her back.
Start at her shoulders. Run parallel to her spine to her gluteus maximus (glutes aka her butt). Then move outward to her sides. Finally, navigate up her sides, back to your starting point.
This is not an erotic back massage. The intention is to relax her, not arouse her. At least not yet.
After you massage her shoulders and back, move down to her glutes. Reveal only one glute. Pressure and kneading both feet great on glutes.
They may also have the effect of stimulating her primary erogenous zones.
Afterward, work on each of her legs. Once again, think long, relaxing strokes. Work the back side of her calves and hamstrings. Include the outside and inside of her thighs.
The inside of the thighs is particularly sensitive. Be sure to use solid, sure strokes and kneading where applicable. Light caresses may feel ticklish or sleazy. Stay away from them.
Her Front Side
Have her flip over to her front side. Adjust your sheet or towel and move to the chair by her head. You’ll perform scalp massage next.
The trick to scalp massage is to perform it which relaxed fingers. Place the tip of each finger on her scalp and massage with circular movements. Make slow, large circles at first, then smaller circles.
As you finish the scalp, move to the chest. You may perform this with or without a sheet. First, work around her breasts. Start with the long strokes you used on her back.
The strokes should move from her shoulders to her sternum. Then down to her belly to the top of her pelvis. Afterward, move laterally to her sides. Lastly, navigate up the sides back to her shoulders.
Afterward, focus your attention on one breast or the other. Work from the outsides of her breast to her areolas in smooth, relaxing strokes. Next, if you’re so inclined, include her nipples.
In general, try to lift her breasts towards her head rather than push them towards her feet. Most women aren’t big fans of the later.
Afterward, you can spend a few minutes massaging her belly. Use large and small circles with both hands. Don’t be afraid to massage over her pubis. You may even include the shaft of the clitoral body.
When you finish, head to one of her legs. You probably won’t make it to her second leg, and here’s why.
As you begin a leg, head down to her ankle. Rest on hand on top and one underneath her heel. Now lean your weight back, and stretch her leg.
As you lean, her leg will rise slightly off the table. When you put it back, rest it in a position in which her legs are slightly apart.
Afterward, use long strokes to cover the muscles around her shins and quadriceps. Then, work your way up from her ankles using kneading strokes. When you get there, address her inner thigh.
If she spreads her legs further or rotates her leg outwards, you may just be in for the night of your life. That’s a clear-fire sign she’s aroused. You’re almost there.
Make her wait just a little longer. Head back to the long strokes again. This time, work all the way up her leg, over her pelvis, up to her breast.
As you practice long, sensual strokes, allow your hand closest to her midline to pass next to her clitoris. Use these long, stimulating strokes until you see clear signs of arousal:
- Change in breathing
- Blushing on the skin around her neck
- Rolling her pelvis
- Further opening her legs
- Becomes fidgety
If this doesn’t happen soon, head over to the other leg and repeat the procedure. End it with direct stimulation of the clitoris and vagina.
What’s Next?
Well, did you learn something new? Remember, erotic massage techniques are helpful, but not imperative. The goal is to relax your partner and get her body used to your touch.
If you achieve that, she’ll be like butter in your hands; and the rest is up to you.
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So long and good luck!
P.S. If your erotic massage is a prelude to a one night stand, we recommend you read this guide for pointers.
