It’s common for a lot of dates to involve drinking in some form or another. But if you’re trying to keep sober, the thought of going on a date can sound somewhat intimiDATING.
Fortunately, you don’t have to drink to have fun during a date.
Keep reading and you’ll learn how to have an amazing time sober dating. Make it to the end and you’ll wonder why you ever thought you needed alcohol to have fun during a date.
Let’s begin!
Plan a Simple Date Away from a Bar
You might feel obliged to take someone to a bar because it’s one of the common things to do.
The problem, though, is that there’s a lot of temptation at a bar. If you’re surrounded by a lot of other people that are drinking, it doesn’t take much for the social pressure to coerce you into having a drink of your own.
A good alternative is a coffee. There’s likely nobody drinking alcohol in a coffee shop and so the temptation to drink is not overwhelming.
Plus coffee shops are a lot quieter so you can at least hear what the other person is saying without having to shout, which is ideal during a first date.
Be Ready For Questions
At some point, there’s going to be a situation where someone will ask you if you want a drink. When this happens, it helps to have a response ready. After all, it’s very unusual in modern society to reject a drink as drinking is so common.
If you don’t drink for health reasons, don’t feel any shame in telling people this.
A lot of people find the discipline involved to reject a drink in social circles impressive. In fact, people may even ask you for some tips on how they can do the same.
In a scenario like this, you could share some personal tips you’ve developed during your time of sober living. You could even share some books that have helped you. Alternatively, if you have trouble with substance abuse, honesty early on can take a lot of pressure off you.
Use ‘Sober’ Dating Sites
If you want to make things easier on yourself, use dating sites designed to cater specifically to people that want to remain sober. This automatically makes things easier because the other person doesn’t want to drink and probably has the same concerns as you.
It’s worth mentioning that some ‘normal’ websites provide you with the ability to filter potential dates. You can then separate the drinkers from the non-drinkers.
Is Sober Dating Easy?
Initially, sober dating can seem scary. But once you learn more about dating whilst sober, you’ll find it’s not all bad.
In this post, we’ve reviewed some of the things you can do to make the task easier. It helps to date in locations where there is no alcohol served. You’ll also want to think about what you’re going to say when people ask you why you’re not drinking.
If you want to make things really easy, you could even sign up to a site dedicated to sober dating.
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