Are you tired of the “I don’t know, I’m down with whatever” response to what do you want to do?
Or maybe that’s your go-to response? If it is you’re not getting the ladies. You’re not getting them excited, at least.
So, what’s the secret to how to impress a woman on a first date? Plan something with some thought and follow our tips below.
Do Something Fun
If you’re over 25, the woman you’re taking out has been on the same exact dinner date you’re planning. At least five or ten times. You do small talk, talk about the menu, then chat until dinner arrives.
She pushes food around her plate and you two eat quietly, it’s all so predictable!
Instead of going through that dance, do something first that you can talk about if you want to get dinner after. Everyone always says, “but I don’t know what to do!”
With the internet, you don’t have to. Finding a fun date idea is as simple as a few google searches. Even small towns have activities, so search “Location Events Tonight” or “events calendar”.
Someone is planning something they’re desperate to show their boss they can get people to.
If that’s not appealing, look on Groupon or sites like it. They have a tab with “Things to do” in the label. Is it cheesy to take a date out with a Groupon?
Only if you make it a big deal. You can set it up beforehand or tell your date you saw an activity on Groupon and thought it would be fun.
If she judges you for going out of your way to find a fun activity, don’t waste that discounted coupon!
Just make sure you tell her what the activity is beforehand so she can dress/prep appropriately.
Try Something New
Women like someone who’s adventurous, even if that means eating at a restaurant you’ve never been to. If something is opening in your town, it at least shows that you’re paying attention.
Women love someone who’s attentive. Also, it’s an easy conversation opener. Hey, have you seen that place they’re opening up over on street name? We should check it out.
Boom! Conversation started and plans made in one fell swoop.
If the restaurant sucks, you’ll have something to bond over. Don’t be overly apologetic, if she knows it’s a new restaurant and you’ve never been there.
You can laugh about how bad x, y, or z was and go get something else after.
Ask Good Questions
So you’ve found something fun to do with your date, now you have to talk to her. A date is a little bit like an interview, but you can’t make it seem like one.
If she’s telling you a story, ask questions. Let’s say she’s telling you about work, ask her if that’s what she loves doing. If not, ask her what her dream job is.
The conversation should flow naturally, but sometimes you have to nudge it along. Ask open-ended questions, not things that are answered with a yes or a no.
Don’t Just Say No
Obviously, you can say no to things, but don’t answer her questions with a straight up no. She’s going out of her way to have a conversation with you and if she asks a question, simply saying no will shut it down.
Instead, you could say no, but I really like doing this instead. If you don’t have a long answer, revert the question back to your date. “What about you?”
Have Confidence
We all have things we’re insecure about or negative things we say to ourselves. Spoiler, she does too!
Don’t let that get in the way of you making a great connection. Think about the date beforehand. Did you put time and thought into planning it?
Yes? Ok, then relax. Stop telling yourself you’re going to mess it up. You’ve already done more than most men who ask their date where they want to go, to avoid planning.
Not that you can’t take her ideas into consideration. Women have a lot going on in their lives and they might like a night off from planning.
Don’t Get Drunk
Going out for drinks is fine, but you’re not going out so she can take care of you when you drink too much. Can you imagine anything less attractive?
Especially if you act differently when you’re drunk. There’s a difference between liking men who can express emotion and having to console you drunk crying about your ex.
One is touching, the other feels like a bad night at a college party. You’re adults, act like one.
Try to keep a two-drink maximum. Don’t order more drinks for her, she can pace herself as she wants. Plus, if you’re pounding shots, she may feel pressured to keep up.
You’re not going to get a second date if either of you did embarrassing things and don’t want to face them in the morning.
Puking is not a great date strategy.
Listen to Her
Ask any woman to describe a bad date she’s been on and she’ll tell you about some time when a man wouldn’t stop going on about himself.
We get it, it’s easy to talk about yourself, but you need to have some balance. If all you do is talk about your interests or shift the conversation back to you she’s going to think you’re egotistical or narcissistic.
Remember to ask questions and follow up on things she says.
Don’t Overdo It
Taking someone out to a nice restaurant is great. Taking a first date to a five-star restaurant is a lot of pressure.
If they suggest the restaurant and you’re down to spend that much, that’s ok. But you’ll both be more comfortable starting off somewhere casual.
How to Impress a Girl on a First Date
All in all, you have to be yourself. Once you’ve come up with a nice and thoughtful date, be kind and listen.
Be the kind of man your mom would want you to be on a date, as cheesy as that sounds. The number one way how to impress a girl on a first date? Actually, try.
Women will see right through you if you take people on the same date every time. Branch out and try something new!
If she’s sending you vibes, and you’ll know if she is, reach for her hand or touch her in a subtle and appropriate way.
It’ll make the possibility of a first kiss more likely, the rest is up to her.
Want to know what to wear on your date? Get some inspo from Donald Glover here.
